Monday, 20 September 2010
Co Homa The Machan - That is Singhalese (Sri Lankan) for "Hello Good Friend". Wifey and I are back from three fabulous weeks in Sri Lanka. It was an amazing trip with far too much to tell in the Get more Goer, but there were some definite learnings to be had.
Most of our trip was spent with family. Family are such wonderful people. Sometimes they don't realise their kindness is killing you, or at least stifling you. They love to save you from yourself and tell you how to live life or throw in a mixed message. In Sri Lanka, food is love. So every visit has a meal and you have to have two or three helpings. Usually it came up in conversation afterwards how much I ate or how "big" I was. EXACTLY what I wanted to hear!
Things are not that different in Australia. When I first left the corporate world and set up my own business, my parents urged me to stay in the corporate world where the job was secure and the money was good. They didn't say this to hold me back, it was said as a protective instinct. They were fearful that I may struggle financially. Frequently family are so protective of you or only want certain things because "they would be best for you". Unknowingly, they can cause you additional distress.
My theory is, don't go to the butcher for bread.
What I mean is, you wouldn't get financial advice from someone on social security, you wouldn't get fitness tips from a chronically ill or unwell person, and you wouldn't take ethic lessons from a lifelong criminal, so pick who you turn to for support. Sometimes your family is great for that and sometimes they aren't. If your family have no experience as an exhibitor at a trade show or expo, how will they know what is "best practice"? If your family have never sold services, how will they know the trick of the trade if that is what you are trying to do? Sometimes you need a paid professional who will be brutally honest with you, sometimes you need a mastermind group to aid your progress and sometimes family CAN be of great assistance.
When you are next looking for support or resources for what you are trying to achieve, don't go to the butcher for bread! Go to the leaders in that field. Chances are much higher that they will have what you need.
What do you need?
Monday, 13 September 2010
You may have noticed that the weather has started to warm up. Melbourne has had a very cold winter this year and many of us are excited about the prospect of temperatures above 15 degrees C! But I noticed something during the cold spell. Talking with friends they said, "It's been so cold I had to really turn up the heater." Work environments almost had fights breaking out about how the heater needed to be turned up because it was too cold!!!
It got me thinking.
It seems more and more now that people expect a response on a larger scale. I am too cold so I will turn up the heating in the entire house. The office is too cold so increase the temperature of the entire office. Our work culture is wrong so something has to change. House prices are too high so the government should do something. Something is wrong in the climate so the climate should change.
I strongly disagree.
I think if there is something wrong with the climate, then we need to change as individuals. Ask yourself the question, what can I do about it? If you are cold, put on warmer clothing. If you don't like how things are done at your work place, change it (either the way it is done or your employer!). It is time for personal responsibility. What can we do as individuals that can impact our own personal climate?
You will find the change will happen quicker than if you waited for the larger scale response, and you can focus on what is really important in your life.
What changes can you make today?
PS For those of you who based in Melbourne or who are in Melbourne on Tuesday 26th of October and want to find out how to give your next session some big change, come and visit me at Meeting Mart. Tickets are free from the website and I will be exhibiting my wares as a Speaker and MC. For my Exhibiting clients, come and see how I do it and for my speaking clients, come and get some great resources from myself and others to make your next session fabulous.
Thursday, 2 September 2010
This blog comes to you while I am gallivanting around the Sri Lankan countryside. I have left the computer at home and will be having three weeks to just relax. But that is not the Australian way. We call ourselves the "Lucky Country" and the image of going surfing, playing footy or just having a BBQ comes to mind when you think of Australian Lifestyle.
But research by the Australia Institute shows that Australia has that longest hours of work in the developed world.
The Australian Bureau of Statistics shows that:
Very long hours of work (50 hours or more per week) have become more common for full-time workers in the 20 years since 1985, particularly for men. In 2005, 30% of men working full-time worked 50 hours or more per week, up from 22% in 1985. Fewer women working full-time worked very long hours, with 16% working 50 hours or more per week in 2005, up from 9% in 1985.
Personally, I have met people that wear their annual leave entitlement like a badge of honour!! "I've got 200 days of annual leave owing! I haven't had a proper holiday for 15 years!!!"
That is INSANE!!! You need rest and recreation because it is Re Creation. It rebuilds yourself and restores your energy. In Australia, we typically get four weeks of annual leave a year. I believe you should have all four weeks in that year. No matter how important you think you are, the place will not fall down without you!
So what about you? How much leave do you have owing and when will you take your next holiday?