Monday, 21 December 2009
Whether you celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah (Chanukah), Chinese New Year, Festivus (the festival for the rest of us), Chrisnukkah (sort of a Christmas, Hannukah combo meal deal) or just use Christmas as an excuse to get together with family and friends to spread joy and love, it is a time of year for reflection. Now I don't just mean reflecting your face in the wrapping paper of the gifts!!! I mean reflection of the year that has passed and the year ahead. Reflecting on what is truly important in your life. Reflecting on how you will grow for the coming year.
But wouldn't be the festive season without present though!! So here is my present to you. Click this link to access it. The Regular Results Review is a simple two page sheet that will give you the opportunity to celebrate your achievements for 2009 and look forward to 2010. Enjoy with my best wishes.
If you want more.
If a Regular Review is not enough and you truly want to make 2010 one of your best years, then you need the Get More from 2010 package. Visit www.warwickmerry.com/get-more-from-2010.html to find out all of the details. Simply put it is a 3 hour session with additional resources to ensure you Get More from 2010. Only a limited number of people will be accepted to make sure it is a focussed session. I would love for you to be there.
Regardless of whether you are there or not, have a fantastic festive season and a magic 2010. I look forward to being part of your team in the New Year!
Thursday, 17 December 2009
A young woman took her dog to the beach for a walk and a play. As she got to the beach I noticed she was on the mobile.
The dog was running back and forth, sooooo excited to be at the beach, but she was on the mobile.
Running into the waves, the dog splashed and then ran back to its owner to share the excitement, but she was on the mobile.
She gave a token toss of a ball and the dog was off like a rocket, chasing and enjoying the evening to bring the ball (it's own little gift of love) back to the woman, but she was on the mobile.
Has that ever happened to you? Have you ever been like the dog? Maybe you were speaking to your manager or boss and they were on the phone or simply distracted and not listening. Maybe you were recounting your day to your loved one and they were not listening but simply waiting to tell you about theirs.
It doesn't feel good does it?
Have you ever been like the woman, that is been physically there but not actually present? Maybe your kids were playing but you were just instructing rather than down on the floor on your hands and knees playing FULL ON! Maybe your team were telling you about some of their issues and you listened in a token manner but didn't hear what was truly happening for them. Maybe your partner wanted to engage with you on a fun activity and you were just playing on the surface.
How do you think your kids, your team and your partner felt?
How much better would the dog have felt if the young woman left the phone at home and played FULL ON with the dog? Was really present for the dog? Also, how much better would the woman have felt if she truly connected with the dog and played FULL ON?
If you are going to do something (whether you want to do it or not), I believe you should do it FULL ON. Not just because it is better for others but also because you will enjoy it more and Get More out of it.
Next time, play with the Dog!
Monday, 14 December 2009
Spiderman's uncle told him that "With great power comes great responsibility".
I believe that the opposite also holds true. That is, "With great responsibility comes great power".
Too often I see people dodging responsibility in an organisation. These same people are also complaining that "they can't change anything". I implore you to take responsibility, it really isn't that bad. Once you take responsibility for a change you wish to see or a situation you wish to change, you will find that you have power over that situation. You also have power over your own attitude about that situation.
Where do you need to take responsibility?
Monday, 30 November 2009
More clearly, do you watch things happen, talk about things you will do or actually make things happen?
There is a time for all three of these but most people get stuck in the first two. So whether it is in your social life, your business life or even your spiritual life, don't just talk about things or watch things happen, become part of what is happening. Take action. It is more satisfying, more rewarding and more beneficial when you do.
What action will you take today?
Monday, 23 November 2009
Do you invest well?
Successful people dabble a bit in shares, some in options, a bit in property, maybe some bond but that is not their most significant investment. They get returns here but not like their best investment.
Do you invest well?
After doing some research, I found the best investment they make is the one in themselves!! It is not always cash either. Sometimes it is in time too. Time to rest, time to recreate themselves, time to learn new ways or time to recharge their energy.
Do you invest well?
Until recently I had not invested in my own learning for awhile. On the weekend I went to a course and had the opportunity to learn new ideas, refresh old learning, meet new associates, and invest more in myself. It was the best investment I have made in sometime.
Do you invest well?
What investment will you make in yourself? Anything that grows you and your knowledge can only be described as investing well!
Thursday, 19 November 2009
Monday, 16 November 2009
I was fortunate enough to MC the TEDx Melbourne even on Saturday. If you are not aware of TED I insist you go to http://www.ted.com/ and find our more before reading any further!
Anyway, it occurred to me that most participants at events like this are Passive, a fair few are Semi-Active and a rare few are truly Active. Here is how I define each category:
These people are happy to be at the session. They enjoy themselves but may little, if any, contribution to the discussion at the time. They are not willing to "stand out" and state an opinion. They will enjoy the session but life will continue on as normal.
These people love this kind of session. They make sure their opinion is made (and heard!) and they may even continue the discussion after the session has concluded. But at the end of the day, life goes on as per normal with minimal changes made.
These people are sometimes considered "The Quiet Achievers". While they do express their opinion, they are also inclusive of others. They will encourage others to be part of the discussion and contribute their thoughts and ideas. Most importantly, they will actively implement some of their new ideas in their day to day life. They hear a new idea, decide what they can do about it and then put action in place.
I am not saying we should all be Active at this kind of session as it takes all types. What I am saying is that it is the Active Participants that get the most value out of a session.
What about you? What recent learning do you need to be Active about?
Photo: Peter Yandell
Monday, 9 November 2009
What I mean is piles of paper on your desk, the window sill, the floor, your secretary's desk? Maybe you even have them on the bench at home or in your home office? You know the piles I am talking about. They are the, "I'll do that later" piles.
These piles drain your energy. Just looking at them exhausts you. Have you ever turned up to work, looked at your desk and then left it in search of the coffee you need to get you started? You HAVE to get rid of your piles.
Here are some easy ways:
- Do it - so often we spend more energy putting something off that actually doing it.
- Dump it - you may be delaying it because you are not going to do it, just throw it away. My theory is "When in doubt, chuck it out".
- Delegate it - maybe someone else is better off doing one this for you.
- Deposit it - you pile may just need filing or archiving
- Diarise it - Now may not be the best time to deal with a pile, so diarise an appointment with yourself when you will do it, and file the pile in your pending area until you need it.
Once you have dealt with your physical piles, what about your virtual piles? We call it email!!
Lovin' your work!
The Get More Guy
Photo Credit: Placid Casual
Monday, 2 November 2009
If someone is giving constructive criticism do you jump to, "Typical I've stuffed up again".
If someone gives you a compliment do you hear, "They're just saying that".
When you achieve fantastic results do you hear, "But I could have done better".
The voice does not serve you well. It can often sound like a parent, an old teacher, a sibling or a jealous rival. You are best often to ignore or silence the voice. When the voice kicks in, tell yourself; "That is NOT what they are saying" and listen to what the feedback actually is.
When someone is giving you feedback the best thing to do is accept it. You may not agree with it, but there will be value in it. To know someone thinks you have done well or to find ways you can improve what you are doing or to accept that you are not perfect but you are improving is a far more valuable way to deal with this situation.
So what is that voice saying now?
The Get More Guy
Monday, 26 October 2009
I live in Melbourne where we have Trams as a form of public transport. When I am in a tram, I want all the cars and pedestrians to get out of my way because they slow me down and I just want to keep moving. When I am in a car, I want the tram to go away because I have to stop more, the traffic is slower and pedestrians just step out on to the road - they slow me down and I just want to keep moving. When I am a pedestrian, I want all traffic (be they car, bus, tram, motorbike or pushbike) to get out of my way because they don't consider me and get in my way - they slow me down and I just want to keep moving.
When I shift my perspective, my journey becomes more pleasant. When I'm in my car, if I recall how I feel when I'm on the tram or a pedestrian, I become more considerate. The same thing happens when I'm a pedestrian or on the tram considering how I feel when I am on the other modes of transport. My situation is still the same, but a shift in perspective makes the situation more pleasant and somehow it seems quicker and less draining.
What about you? What situation do you need to change your perspective on? Is it dealing with your kids, your partner, your boss, your colleagues, your pets, that guy at the train station, the person selling Big Issue magazines, or maybe it is how you relate to yourself? What is your perspective?
The Get More Guy
Photo: Joe Armao
Monday, 12 October 2009
- We packed the venue and had over 200 people there.
- We got rapturous applause showing they liked our stuff.
- Most people wanted to take us home so we sold over 100 CD's
It was a great event and a huge success!
I am not telling you this to make you jealous that you missed out (although that may happen!), I am telling you this to let you know that a huge success like this does not happen by itself. So many people contributed. Naturally, the Musical Director, Choreographer, Graphic Designer and Marketing Manager had a significant input but that is no more important that the individuals singing the right notes at the right time with the right words. We couldn't have done it without the venue staff looking after our guests while we sang and the cleaning staff cleaning up after we left.
Also, if our loved ones didn't support us and understand that we had to go to rehearsals every Wednesday and practice singing around the house (which is not always pleasant!), the performance would not have been as good.
So many people have contributed to making us and our event a success.
What about your success? Even if you have done it all on your own, who has given you the space to make it happen? Who has put you on that path? Who has made sure you have the resources to do or achieve what you need to? Who keeps the tea and coffee stocked, the dishes cleaned, the motivation fired up, the ideas generating, the projects on track, the clothes clean, the technology running, the employee's happy? The list goes on.
Once you know who they are, why not thank them? It is the little things that all go together to enable the big things to happen. Make sure you acknowledge the people who make the little things happen - because they make the big things happen.
Wednesday, 7 October 2009
There is nothing unusual about that. People do it all the time. But my mum lives in a sleepy town with a population of about 2,000 and traffic is not usually that busy. She was visiting me in Melbourne, population about 4 million and peak hour is.... well.... messy at times!! Not only that, but I ride a motorbike. Granted, it is a big one, but it means you are much closer to the large semi-trailers than you are when in the car.
So there we were zooming home on the bike, me on the front hoping everyone would know I had my mum on the back so they should give way, and my 67 year old mum on the back grinning like a cheshire cat. She had a ball! In fact, she liked it so much that after we got home, we got back on the bike and went for another ride to the pub for dinner.
As much as I like bragging about my mum, the point of this is don't let invisibile boundaries stop you from doing things. When I mentioned to people I was giving mum a lift home many people on my clients site said things like: "ooo... is that a good idea?", "your mum? Really?" even other motorbike riders were saying "I am not sure I would do that." At what age do you get "too old" to do things? Too mature, too tall, too many responsibilities, too serious, too risky, too (insert relevant word here)??
Life is to be lived. Don't let what other think hold you back.
The Get More Guy
Monday, 5 October 2009
The same can be said for life in general. If you want something, ask for it. The classic bible quote of "Ask and it shall be given unto you" may not always be accurate but it works better than just wishing for something. How many discounts are you missing out on because you don't ask for it? How much special treatment do you miss because you never ask?
I was once travelling and stopped at a hotel. When booking in I asked how much was the room. I asked was there a corporate rate, to which the attendant said yes and quoted the price which was about 20% cheaper. When I asked how do I get the corporate rate, she said, "You just have to ask for it". Naturally I asked for it!
What are you missing out on because you don't ask for it?
Friday, 2 October 2009
I need to be open here and say that I am a big fan of Wealth Creation via property and Wifey and I continue to follow our property plan. But this blog is not about how you should invest in property, it is about taking action.
At my presentations I hear a lot of people talking about investments, talking about properties, talking about goals, talking about superannuation and talking about what they will do. But when all is said and done, there is a lot more said than done. As Cheyanne said last night, get educated about your investment area. Learn from others mistakes before you make your own. Then you have to take action.
Don't one of those people who say "If only I had done something 10 years ago", "If only I had bought that property 10 years ago", "If only I had bought shares 10 years ago", "If only........".
In 10 years time, now is 10 years ago. What will you do today to build your wealth?
The Get More Guy
Monday, 28 September 2009
Don't forget how hard it is to ALMOST reach your goals. It is easy to get in to blame mode (what the coach did or didn't do), to punish mode (I am not supporting them next year) or give up mode (that's it - I no longer care about the game!).
We do the same with our own goals. We may get 98% of the way there and not quite achieve them. That is no reason to blame, punish or give up! It is a reason to review what worked and what didn't. Look at what you can do to improve and also a reason to celebrate. I believe that if you make celebrating success a habit, success becomes a habit. Don't focus on the 2% you didn't achieve, focus on the great things you have achieved. (Some days that can be just turning up to work!!)
Wifey and I celebrated 3 years since our first date on the weekend. Someone asked me why celebrate that, I replied, "Why not! It's a milestone". So happy 3rd dating anniversary wifey!! For everyone else, what will you celebrate today?
Thursday, 23 April 2009
Rather than wax lyrically about it and pine for the "good old days", I thought I would give you a present to help us all make today one of the "good old days" for us to look back on.
A while ago I great the Get More Birthday Bash. It is a simple two page checklist to help you celebrate that special day.
So download it here and use it. It won't take long but it will help make sure you are on track and that you are celebrating success as you go.
The Get More Guy
Monday, 30 March 2009
It was the Melbourne Grand Prix here yesterday. A day of noise, colour, excitement, people and crashes. Many crashes. Many expensive, jaw crunching, bowel clenching crashes.
What did I do wrong?
The Get More Guy
Photo Credit: The Age
Monday, 23 March 2009
So here are the Top Ten Tips for Life
1 Stay out of trouble that you can easily avoid
2 No matter how high you go, you can always aim for greater heights
3 What ever you are doing, maintain your focus
4 We all get busy, but you need to find time for exercise to maintain your health
5 You are not alone in the world so practice teamwork because you can't do everything.
6 Trust your partner to watch your back. Being able to trust is as important as having someone to trust
7 You never know when the rainy day will hit. You need to make sure you put a little aside to give you protection.
8 Take time to rest. You will need to restore your energy for all of your adventures.
9 Always remember to smile. You may find yourself in a strange position with strange people and a smile will always help.
10 No matter what anyone says, nothing is impossible!!
Friday, 20 March 2009
Among some of the feedback was a link from Denise Owen from St John of God Health Care. She referred me to the Get The World Moving website www.gettheworldmoving.com. I strongly encourage you to check it out and maybe even get a team going in your office.
The other good bit of news is that I have started some video tips on my YouTube channel. Slowly but surely I will be adding to "The Adventures of the Get More Guy". You can check it out at www.youtube.com/GetMoreGuy
You can also see the commercial I did for a toothpick while dressed up as a cowboy and where I sang on stage at Hamer Hall with Josh Groban as part of his Awake Tour.
Have a great weekend and let me know if you want anything specific address in the Adventures series.
The Get More Guy
Thursday, 26 February 2009
I made Wifey some yummy scones and Tweeted about it. Some people wanted the recipe - so here it is. These are sooooo easy.
- 2 cups Self Raising Flour Sifted
- 1/4 cup Caster Sugar
- 1/2 cup Sultanas (optional - can use chopped dates instead)
- 1/2 cup Thickened Cream (35% fat)
- 1/2 cup Lemonade (for North Americans, I am referring to Sprite, 7 Up or equivalent - we Aussies call it Lemonade)
- Pinch Salt
- Preheat oven to 210 C (for a fan forced oven)
- Line a baking tray with baking paper or grease it
- Place flour, sugar, salt and sultanas in a large mixing bowl
- Mix the dry ingredients and make a well in the centre
- Add cream and lemonade to dry ingredients
- Mix to form a soft dough
- Turn dough out onto lightly floured benchtop and knead lightly
- Press dough with hands to thickness of about 3 cm
- Use a 5cm cutter to cut out scones
- Place on baking tray
- You can brush the scones with milk but this is optional. It makes them brown a little easier. (I don't do this)
- Bake for 15 minutes until lightly browned
- Place on cooling tray
- Serve warm with jam and cream
If you wanted to, you could use light cream, diet lemonade and all that kind of gear, but made as they are is pretty damn good!!
The Get More Guy
Tuesday, 10 February 2009
Within a day over three country towns have been disintegrated. Over 190 people have been killed. Animals, domestic and wild have been killed and maimed. Thousands of people have been traumatised and tormented. Places I have visited and have fond memories of no longer exist. The footage and stories of survivors and victims are like an action holocaust film.
But it's real!
Victoria has been burnt. The fires are not out yet either. The pain is far from over. The wounds are so fresh - mental and physical. The number of people still to be accounted for is significant. It is hard to believe that it has happened less than 50km (30 miles) away.
Humans are Fragile
It has taken so little to kill so many. Mother nature is so strong and unpredictable. It will take time but there will be positives in this situation. Not just the stories of miracles, courage and strength but the lessons of determination. To me this shows how short our lives are (even though they are the longest thing we will ever do) and how important it is to continue on with our dreams and our goals no matter what.
Never Give Up!
At times in the past I have wondered if the effort to do what I do is worth it. Wouldn't it be easier to just plod along and not strive as I do. This has reinforced that no one should settle. No one should live at anything less than the maximum that they can. Don't put it off. Do it now. Don't give up.
For those living through the horror of losing family, homes, pets, livelihoods, my thoughts are to never give up. Get help (there are so many who have come to help), get guidance (many health practitioners are donating or providing cheaply services to aid you) and keep moving.
If they can do it, why not me.
Life is tragic, but it's real. What holds you back from being all that you can be?
The Get More Guy
Monday, 2 February 2009
It was mealtime during a flight on a British Airways plane:
'Would you like dinner?' the flight attendant asked the man seated in the front row.
'What are my choices?' the man asked.
'Yes or no,' she replied.
A flight attendant was stationed at the departure gate to check tickets. As a man approached, she extended her hand for the ticket and he opened his trench coat and flashed her. Without blinking an eyelid she said, 'Sir, I need to see your ticket - not your stub.'
A lady was picking through the frozen turkeys at a branch of Sainsbury's but she couldn't find one big enough for her family. She asked a passing assistant, 'Do these turkeys get any bigger?'
The assistant replied, 'I'm afraid not, they're dead.'
The policeman got out of his car and approached the boy racer he stopped for speeding. 'I've been waiting for you all day,' the bobby said.
The kid replied, 'Yes, well I got here as fast as I could.'
When the policeman finally stopped laughing, he sent the kid on his way without a ticket.
A lorry driver was driving along on a country road.. A sign came up that read ' Low Bridge Ahead.' Before he realised it, the bridge was directly ahead and he got stuck under it. Cars are backed up for miles. Finally, a police car comes up. The policeman got out of his car and walked to the lorry's cab and said to the driver, 'Got stuck, eh?'
The lorry driver said, 'No, I was delivering this bridge and ran out of petrol!'
SMART ARSE ANSWER OF THE YEAR 2008
A teacher at a polytechnic college reminded her pupils of tomorrow's final exam. 'Now listen to me, I won't tolerate any excuses for you not being here tomorrow. I might consider a nuclear attack or a serious personal injury, illness, or a death in your immediate family, but that's it, no other excuses whatsoever!'
A smart-arsed guy at the back of the room raised his hand and asked, 'What would happen if I came in tomorrow suffering from complete and utter sexual exhaustion?'
The entire class was reduced to laughter and sniggering.
When silence was restored, the teacher smiled knowingly at the student, shook her head and sweetly said, 'Well, I suppose you'd have to write with your other hand'..
The Australian Open
Rafael Nadal and Roger Federer went head to head for nearly 4 1/2 hours. Both players looked exhausted and both players kept playing at full capacity. So much so that Nadal looked like he had emerged from a swimming pool he was so drenched in sweat. At no stage did they give up.
They both made mistakes, they both let those mistakes go and focused on the next point in play. It was a marathon slog for the top two seeds in the tournament. I suspect they are both looking at how to improve on those mistakes and play better in their next round.
One Day Cricket
Australia played New Zealand in one day cricket yesterday. New Zealand's bowlers did a great job of getting the Aussies all out for 181. As a team, that must have been a crushing blow for the Aussies. Their turn to bowl and they put a lot of pressure on. New Zealand's run rate was low but still they kept at it. Most people would have thought that they were not going to be good enough to make it. It got down to the last over and New Zealand needed 5 runs to win. Another man out and then down to needing 1 run off the final ball.
New Zealand captain remained calm, focused and determined. Almost miraculously he was able to get the ball through a heavy field and get the four runs off the last ball for a well deserved victory.
Life is not sport (sorry to disappoint a lot of people). Even those who play sport have a life outside it. There are always times when we are challenged and want to give up. Maybe not give up, but let things slide. Go for an easier, softer option. Sport gives us lots of lessons. For me, yesterdays lesson was Don't Give Up!! Or as good friends of mine say, "Don't quit before the miracle happens."
For you, what is happening in your life that needs you to persist just that little bit longer? What do you need to do to let go of past performance, what you may have previously said or done and focus on the right here and right now? What will you do to keep applying yourself and focus on the desired out come?
Calvin Coolidge (30th President of USA) has been often quoted saying:
Nothing in the world can take the place of Persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan 'Press On' has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.
But I am more a fan of The Captain from Galaxy Quest. "Never give up. Never surrender!"
Thursday, 29 January 2009
Fair question. Many parts of the world have temperatures higher than this all the time (hello Middle East) but they don't moan like we are. You know we are moaning. At the very least I am blogging about it. Twitter is rife with it. The newspapers all have the delightful headline "SCORCHER" - or something equally as witty. Tennis commentators waffle on for ages about it. Radio commentators all go on about it also.
What Can You Do?
Here in lies the key to my blog. The answer is - Nothing. The weather is the rare topic that we talk about all the time and can do nothing about. What ever you mention about it, someone has it better and someone has it worse. Tweets of "it's hot" were countered with "at least you don't have an ice storm like we do". Sometimes just talking about it makes it worse. While it is hard not to talk about it, it will still be hot when your conversation has ended. All you can do is make yourself as comfortable as possible (popular ideas are to go to air conditioned cinema or the beach) and get on with life.
What Else Is Like That?
How many times in business or life does this situation occur? There is always something that you can bitch and moan about and all it gets you is more distressed, more unhappy and more focused on something you can do nothing about. It could be your family, a health affliction, someones behaviour or even the weather!
How will you deal with it? Australian author Kim Falconer deals with it using her underpants! You need to read her blog to find out the details.
I like the two killer questions:
- What's my part in this?
- What can I do differently?
What do you do? Let me know.
The Get More Guy
Friday, 16 January 2009
It still pissed me off!!!!!
I was flying to my band camp (Summer Song) and i was excited! I had a 7:30 flight and was flying Jetstar. For those who don't know Jetstar is one of Australia's low cost airlines - effectively a bus with wings. They have a policy that check in closes 30 minutes before the flight takes off and if you miss check in, you miss your flight.
I was clever I checked in from home using webcheck in. All I had to do is check my bag and I was good to go. So on Thursday morning I got up early, woke Wifey (who was my chauffeur for the day) and headed off to the airport.
Unfortunately traffic was a little tight but no worries because my baggage was in a carry on bag so if I was late i would just carry it on. I got there at 7am. Joined the queue to check bags at 7.02am and spoke to the check in person at 7.04am. He informed me that baggage was closed. "No worries", I said. "I'll just carry it on". He said it was a little heavy and I had to see the service desk.
There I was waiting in line to see the service desk dude getting concerned how close it was to the flight. When the service desk dude finished with his customer I mentioned (because I was four people back in the queue) to him that I was concerned I would miss my flight. Then he said I had been taken off the flight and I would have to reschedule.
That's when I felt like a four year old in a lolly shop with no money. Adrenalin surged, I was going to start shouting and blame Jetstar. They would be sorry and I would never fly them again. I would tweet everyone and.......... it was all my fault.
I knew the rules and I didn't stick by them. I was late to check in. Jetstar are known for their strict adherence to this policy. I had joked with a friend the week before about how she missed her flight for last year's camp.
I didn't add a buffer. When planning anything I always like to add a buffer for when things are not perfect. Traffic was heavier than I thought and 5 minutes delay cost me.
I was too heavy. My baggage was 3 kg too heavy for carry on. I knew there were limits and I know Jetstar is strict. Next time I will pack differently.
I didn't blow up and blame them for all of my woes. I still have issues with their policies but I knew their policies and didn't follow them.
The best thing I did was take responsibility for my actions. My fault and no oneelses.
So here I am at the airport, one day later, $70 poorer and rescheduling my trip.
Where do you need to take responsibility?
Monday, 12 January 2009
But an interesting thing happened - I had feelings!
As a speaker I address audiences from 5 to 5,000 and feel incredibly comfortable in doing so. In fact, the bigger the audience the better. It was really strange to be in a dingy dark room at the back of an iconic Melbourne hotel with about 120-150 people in the audience and be really nervous. After 30 seconds on stage, I was able to relax a bit and then proceeded. So even though I haven't been nervous like that for quite awhile, it passed quickly.
What didn't pass quickly were my other feelings!
I am a student of personal development and the new age learning. Manifesting, Law of Attraction, Power of Positive Thinking and lots of other fun hippy trippy stuff. After a humble assessment of my comedy skill I thought that there was a fair chance I may progress to the second round. When I was doing my preparation I was focused on performing well enough to get to the second round. I was fortunate to be part of a pre-heat comedy workshop and after seeing others my confidence of getting to the second round was boosted.
On the day that 31 people gave their performances of 5 minutes each, 6 of them were to progress to the next round. After the level of laughs I got and the positive feedback from honest friends, I was confident that the second round would manifest in to reality for me. As I watched more and more of the Raw Comedy entrants I could honestly say that there were about two or three that were by far better than me and others that were close. The leader of the comedy workshop had a chat with me at half time and said in his opinion I had a strong chance of getting through.
When the six entrants going through to the next round were announced, my name wasn't one of them. Some of the people who did get through didn't seem to be as funny as me or have as good a crowd response as I did. But comedy is a funny thing - not funny Ha Ha but funny strange. What appealed to the judges was different to what I did.
My friends and my own mind kicked in:
"You gave it your best shot"
"Others would not have done this"
"The judges got it wrong - we thought you were great"
"There is always next year"
"It wasn't meant to be"
I tried to be philosophical. I looked for the positive. I sent positive vibes to the winners.
I was as pissed off as hell!
Well, maybe not that much but I was very disappointed. This was where the feelings were kicking in. I know about acceptance, moving forward, letting go of disappointment, blessing others who achieve what you want - but I still had feelings. Sometimes in the new age writings it seems like they think I am Buddha. I am not that nice!
So I felt pissed off for a couple of hours. It was great. I got in there and really wallowed in it. I felt the feelings and they passed. They no longer hold me back. I can be authentic and not pretend I am something I am not. I wasn't unpleasant, in fact I genuinely congratulated the others but I allowed myself to feel the feelings. Some well intentioned people around me tried to shut the feelings down but I knew what was right for me.
What about you? What is right for you? How do you process your feelings? Leave a comment and let me know.
They say that the quickest way around is through. If you want to be free of the damage your feelings can cause to you and those you love (or even just your work colleagues), don't squash the feelings down. Feel them. Process them. Have a tantrum if you need to (just make sure it is in an appropriate place). Once the feeling has gone you are free to do what you know you must.
Me.... I am now looking around for open mic nights at the many Melbourne comedy clubs. I won't let one little set back get in my road - no matter how disappointing!
The Get More Guy
Wednesday, 7 January 2009
I don't mind confessing that I am a little scared! I like to think I am a little funny and that I keep people amused at parties but being on stage in the spot light is a little different.
You may also know that I am a professional speaker so being in front of people is not a new experience for me. But there is a huge difference between cracking a few jokes during a one hour session and making people laugh constantly for 5 minutes.
5 minutes!! It is not long but it can seem like a life time. I had a routine written and I was pretty confident (to be honest I was a bit to confident!) and then I performed it in front of ten friends at a workshop we had yesterday. Ouch!! Wasn't that good. So I have spent a lot of yesterday and today rewriting my 5 minutes of comedy.
I have thought about doing this for ages. There is no reason for me to do this other than to go to the edge and peer over. I don't want to fail. I want to be funny! In fact, to be completely honest, I want to get to the next round. For years I have avoided this but I can't do it any more.
What about you?
Do you have times where you live on the edge or can you only see the edge from where you are?
"It's somewhere over there in the distance."
Spending time on the edge is scary, but fulfilling. My confidence and self belief are growing. My willingness to do the impossible or at least the unthinkable is growing. In fact the more time I spend on the edge, the more it moves further from me.
Photo: Flickr/Matt N Johnson